Ok, let me just say what everyone else is thinking....if a guy or girl person came up to me saying they are my boss and I have to do whatever they say - I would then say that job at Benihana is looking mighty good right now because no one is the boss of me. (because id rather have a less intense boss)
Ok could be dramatic but everyone has to deal with colleagues or managers that seem to over step their boundaries whether they do have say so or not.
So how do you handle this? Well, let's just think that over - you can always leave - which it's not always the best answer but I think it really is the millennial answer, lol. Or you can stand up, speak up and voice your concern.
Now - I must admit this can be very hard to do and I also need to clarify one thing - your manager can not always be your Saving Grace - meaning when they have important fish to fry and at some companies they honestly do, sometimes not, but we will go with they mostly do, you are going to have to figure this out on your own. Some managers are tough, and they often dont have time for pettiness left over from high school anguish. So how do you break the ice and talk to your let's say co-worker, wanna-be-manager nemesis? You simply do this:
Setup a meeting. You can either invite for a coffee walk, distract by making it seem to be about a certain task or project you need to pick their brain on or be blunt and let them know this is a 1:1 conversation pertaining to observed interaction or simply put, 1:1 Touch Base (gotta keep this professional people!).
Once you're in the meeting, remaining professional and communicating with professionalism is key, while still letting the individual know you felt at unease with their communication delivery about certain tasks or orders given and you would politely prefer a different tone to be used or come to an understanding about whatever issue that could be causing friction.
At the end of the day, you are in control of what happens to your career and how you are seen to others in the workplace. Don't be afraid to speak up and share concerns. While most are focused on things they need to do to advance their career, no-one likes conflict. And it will be up to you to find a clear way to resolve and reach conflict resolution.
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